Everything's Going To Be Okay

Life is all about change, isn’t it? Even when we don’t want it, we least expect it, or can’t appreciate it, we know change is and will always be a part of life.

And we all manage change in our lives—great or small, negative or positive—differently. Some of us thrive on change and find a way to adjust and move forward quickly. Others dread change and look for any possible way to postpone it. The rest of us fall somewhere in between the two extremes.

For the most part, I’ve always felt that change, generally speaking, is something I accept and even embrace. Looking back over my life, I’ve managed to maneuver through some pretty difficult changes quite well, at least in my opinion. Sterling would probably agree with me. In fact, he’s called me “the move on girl”. When there’s a change to be made, and I know it’s inevitable, I usually make up my mind and move on.

What I’m finding is that the older I get, the slower I am at accepting change gracefully, especially when it’s personal. Maybe it’s just me. Either way, I analyze over and over, hold on to things longer, and grieve more.

I’m beginning to think my attitude toward change needs to change! Until then, I’ll keep repeating my sweetheart’s familiar and comforting words, “Everything’s going to be okay.” They may not be the same, but they’ll be okay.

Comments

[Patti]

I feel the same way. The older I get, the more harder it seems for me to accept change...gracefully. Whether it's my body telling me, 'You can't do that anymore!' or realizing that I now no longer can stay awake past 10 pm is a bit lowering to realize. I too, analyze everything, instead of just going with the flow and relaxing more. I feel very blessed to have a husband who not only supports me but cheers me on and is truly my rock in all storms. Right there with you Shelli! ;)

[Eveline van Heijst]

I'm not good with change either. And I don't want it sprung on me, I want to adjust in my own time if possible.
And I bought the great stamp set "Really Good Greetings" especially for that great saying "Everything will be OK even if we can't see what OK is yet". I gives support in the best way.
Eveline.

[Karen]

I can't tell you how much your post means to me Shelli. I lost my Mom yesterday and just reading the title, I know that everything's gonna be ok. She's in a much better place without any pain. Thank you for bringing a smile to my face this morning. Karen

[Selene Kempton]

Sounds like you might be dealing with something that feels "heavy." The only thing that stays the same is change. Sometimes we have to go through bumps and bruises along the way to get there. When all is said and done it's not about the peaks and valleys it's about the journey or path we take to get there. Try to find the joy in the journey. Saying a prayer for you this morning. Selene~

[Anne Brown]

Thanks for these words, Shelli. I, too struggle with change now more than I did in my younger years....but I also have more experiences to look back on which do prove that everything WILL be ok! I also know that having been a demo for more than 12 years now, while I might not like every change, I can honestly say most of them have truly worked out ok.!

[Wendy Cranford]

Shelli, So funny you should write about this. I can't help but wonder if it has to do with all of SU's changes. I almost feel like you are telling US, your demos, it's all going to be okay :) Some are worried, some are not, some just don't care. I have to say that in the very short time I have been with SU I feel like change is something I have learned to be more comfortable with. Not just in SU but with everything else. You, this company, has taught me that. Just GO WITH THE FLOW BABY! :) Thanks for your words of wisdom. ~ Wendy

[Elizabeth]

Change can be overwhelming. There are some changes that we have no control over... they are Gods Will and you have to embrace the changes - whether good or bad. Then there are changes that are not life threatening but we still find them overwhelming. In the end, we will survive the changes but we have to find ways to manage our stresses through the process... meditation, prayer, counselling, exercise, creativity, etc.

Whatever the changes you are dealing with I know you will have support from your Family, Friends and your Stampin' Up! Family.

[Kat]

So glad to read your post. Have been thinking lately that I don't respond as well to situations as I did 20 years ago which I found frustrating and puzzling - thinking that experience and wisdom would help me cope better than 20 years ago. A friend recently posted something to the effect that if you are needing to lean on God more, to be grateful for that which is causing you to draw closer to God.

[Dona S]

Read your post just now, and I can't help but worry about what change is facing you that you are having difficulty with. A. If it's SU, we made it through the color change with everyone adjusting, and that's been the hardest one for me. Every change SU has announced really has worked out for the better - that very fact makes it easier to roll with the punches. B. If it's personal, please know that most of your demonstrators would do anything they could to lighten your load, trust your judgement or come to your aid. C. When I sense difficulties ahead, I lean back on the Lord's Prayer. It says "Thy will be done..." not "My will be done..." The more often I have come to understand that, the easier challenges have become. May you find comfort in your family, friends, faith and all these crazy demonstrators across the globe who believe in you.

[Julie Davison]

Hugs to you, Shelli! I prefer the comfort of the things I am familiar with. I have continued to use computers and cameras that didn't function correctly because I didn't want to learn how to use a new system. Almost always, the "new" ends up being better and worth the transition. Everything WILL be okay. And not only "okay", but BETTER!

[Jane Graham]

My BFF always reminds me to "breathe in and breathe out".Simple right? but during those difficult times it has always helped me.

[Denise Waddell]

Yes, just breathe .... I stop and do that several times a day! I know you and I are often on the same waves! You even say things I am feeling too! You are the most pleasant and gracious person I know. Just take a little break, a cup of tea to relax, and breathe. Good time for quick little prayers too!

[katie]

Shelli----Changes in my life devastated me until I read the saying "sometimes good things fall apart so better things can come together". That was my mantra when dealing with a broken relationship that really hurt, and sure enough, God sent me someone even better and things are all rosy again. I hang onto the thought that His plans for me will always lead me to a good place. Hang in there---I know you are also a woman of faith and faith is a wonderful thing to have. Katie